no :/ i decided to work first because i want experience working before going to grad school, and i also want to save up some money before going so i don’t end up with a shit ton of debt lol
That is very practical! I wish you the best of luck in all endeavors. When are you leaving for Norcal?
I would talk more about work, but I don’t know if I’m allowed to yet. I apologize for being so silent too! I haven’t been on Tumblr for what feels like a really long time. I hope everyone is doing well. :)
it’s good my co-workers are cool and my boss is really chill
Today, he came over to ask if i was having lunch with him and the other co-workers and I said, “NO I’M SICK OF YOUR SHIT,” and he said, “I’d be sick of my shit too.” I actually told him that I already scheduled a lunch date with Lou (who coincidentally works less than a mile from me) and my boss was like, “Yeah, I figured.”
A+++ our crew has managed to talk about poop for three days in a row.
I think Isabelle has a crush on me guys. NGL she’s very cute. She got all uguuuu about me taking her to the beach.
I’ve had Animal Crossing for over an hour but I haven’t started yet because I want the PERFECT TOWN AND PERFECT AVATAR!!!!!
DOWNLOADING IT NOW AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
- Interviewer: Where do you see yourself in five years?
- Me: With a lot more cats.
I just want to preface it by saying that none of this is intended as an attack on anyone, rather a critique of attitudes that need to be challenged and that in my opinion don’t belong in our community.
Every once in a while comments or confessions like this little gem crop up:
comments like this, or worse, usually bring out a range of reactions in me and countless others, from eye rolling to full on fury because why does someone else’s body even matter to you?
Hobbies and communities like the BJD one are fantastic for so many reasons not least because the very nature of them is that they’re largely online and about the sharing of ‘things’ as opposed to being primarily about the participant themselves. And that holds true regardless of which aspect of the hobby you fall into, whether you’re a straight up collector, customiser, seamstress, photographer… whatever, the focus is still on the dolls. For that reason I think that for many of us, we like to consider it a ‘safe space’. Meaning a space where we don’t feel judged for our looks, ethnicity, sexuality or health status, instead we all get to enjoy emoting over something we have in common. Or at least we shouldn’t feel judged.
Of course that safe space begins to cross over with the outside world once we get to the meet-up side of things and areas of the internet like youtube where we, the owner, take a more visible role. It’s these elements where we start to see people commenting on and bitching about other people’s appearance, which to me, is pretty damn counter to the spirit of a creative hobby that is at the end of the day about nerding out over big, expensive, plastic dolls.
It’s there too that our supposed safe space crosses over with the real world issues and societal bullshit we get thrown at us every day because there are a lot of those issues, especially ones related to body image, that don’t go away just because we’re going to a doll meet. When people complain about what someone wore to a meet for example I think they don’t realise that there are so many body issues some of us deal with that even getting to a meet in jeans and a hoodie is an achievement in and of itself, it’s nothing to do with being ‘too cheap for nice clothes’ it’s to do with comfort, be that literal or because someone has a hard enough time in social situations as it is that stressing over picking out an outfit or wearing something they’re not 100% comfortable in is just another layer of stress they can’t deal with. For me, I spent most of my teens and early 20’s hiding in baggy jeans and a hoodie or baggy shirt because I didn’t have the confidence in myself and and hated my own body so much that I tried to hide it instead of struggling to find clothing I could feel confident in. If you want people to dress a certain way to attend your meets perhaps you should propose a dress code or theme that everyone agrees too. If that’s not the case, it’s really not up to you to decide what is or isn’t appropriate dress for a public gathering.
And then of course there’s the old bean of bitching about and commenting on ‘how omg fat so many people in the hobby are’. There’s a fundamental thing here that the people who feel the need to make these observations and be snide about it are missing; not your body, not your problem and sure as hell not your place to judge.
In our society we’re bombarded with a supposed ideal that only a tiny fraction of people will ever fit into. All that’s bad enough without compounding it with us being judgmental shitheads to each other based on the shape of our fellow hobbyists body.
Going back to the initial question of why does someone else’s body even matter to you; at the end of the day the only body you have a say about is your own. If someone’s fat, do you think they don’t know that? That you telling them is some great revelation? You being nasty about it or trying to dictate what they do with their own body is not only a massive dick move and you really need to back the fuck off and look at exactly why you’re doing this shit.
There are countless reasons why a person might be fat, be that genetics, health or disability related or simply because (shocker) they happen to be fat but all of the reasons have one thing in common; it’s none of your damn business.
In relation to the hobby a person’s body shape, size or health concerns have a grand total of zero effect on their value as a person, artist or member of the BJD community. The only thing that is wrong with it is your attitude towards it and lack of respect for other human beings.
tl;dr: If it’s not your body, shut the fuck up and grow some empathy.
- Me: Someone tell me what to draw
- Someone: draw this
- Me: no not that
I’m just going to post links but not write descriptions. Tired. Sorry sorry! All auction links are to dolls that are significantly cheaper than you’d find them usually.
After playing with Jen’s MDDIII, I have also decided to get a MDDIII. I’ll be selling Noel’s body after the MDDIII body arrives. :,3 I need to get some reinforcements for the body eventually too, then.
I’ve also decided I’m going to get Animal Crossing as a digital download off the Nintendo eShop when it launches at midnight in a week. So excited! <3 <3 <3
Still waiting to hear back from other stuff before I can release even bigger news.
Smooches to everyone. You guys are all great, and I hope you’re doing well.
I wanna see a Volks Nono painted in an anime style. I’ve been really inspired to paint resin BJDs like vinyl BJDs after seeing some goooorgeous Bluefairy customs. I’ll dig up the photos to share, because they are WOWOWOWOWOW perfect!